Comments on: Life Is Various Shades Of Gray

By: How To Reconcile With Family Or Friends | Serene Journey

How To Reconcile With Family Or Friends | Serene Journey — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:24:02 +0000

[...] What is really harmful to families, and any relationship for that matter, is the inability to see past these differences, these unique ways and reconcile. It’s our pride that gets in the way most of the time. The feeling to prove that we were right and they were wrong. But when you both dig your heals in and decide not to budge no one ever wins. As I’ve said before life is various shades of gray. [...]

By: Wilma Ham

Wilma Ham — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 04:16:48 +0000

Judging is having opinions with very little information.
However when you do not like a certain behavior, besides not judging the person, you can always choose no play and not asscociate with them rather than pick a fight or put up with behavior you do not like.

By: Zengirl

Zengirl — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:50:28 +0000

Dale Carnegie had said once “if you had life and experience of some one, you will feel and behave the same way”, sums it up. There is no good or evil, like you said. Nice post.
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By: Sherri

Sherri — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 12:15:36 +0000

I’m glad you enjoyed it. It’s not an easy exercise in the least. It’s easier to hide and stay mad and be “right” but it’s not the most conducive to your happiness.

Thanks for all your comments!

By: Lisis

Lisis — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 11:05:03 +0000

So true, Sherri. We tend to take a little slice of people’s lives (the one we can see from where we are standing on this particular day) and paint a completely picture about them. Really what we see on that day is one tiny piece of a many-thousand piece puzzle, and we have NO idea what the rest of them are like.

The only benefit of judging others is so that we can feel self-righteous… and that doesn’t do anyone any good.

By: Mummy Zen

Mummy Zen — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 09:51:11 +0000

Good and interesting post! It’s so easy to let the ‘bad’ side of someone overshadow their positive attributes so your suggested exercise is a very helpful one.

By: Melissa Gorzelanczyk

Melissa Gorzelanczyk — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 04:30:36 +0000

Its so easy to judge and forget that we are all learning about life… Thanks for the reminder.

By: Kaushik

Kaushik — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 03:16:58 +0000

Great post. Things are not positive or negative. As the bard said (paraphrasing) nothing is good or bad, only thinking makes it so!
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By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 18:22:42 +0000

I’ve written about this topic before because I think it’s SO important. It’s so easy to try to think of things as “good” or “bad” but it’s almost always more complicated than that. Really great post. I loved the way you addressed this!
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