Comments on: Being A Rebel: Is It Killing Your Happiness?

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By: steadymom

steadymom — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 18:36:03 +0000

I find (in myself as well as others) that sometimes the desire to rebel comes from a manipulative form of control.

But you’re right – we need to applaud others when they have good ideas, instead of feeling threatened. There is more than enough success available in this world for all of us!

Jamie
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By: Wilma Ham

Wilma Ham — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 03:08:43 +0000

I used to be a rebel until I understood the difference between being reactive and proactivily doing things differently.
However the rebel in me sometimes rebels against that as well.

By: Bakari

Bakari — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:57:01 +0000

I was once rebellious (my wife as well) at admitting that a business I owned (restaurant) would not make it. The college near us closed down a huge dorm complex that supplied many of our customers. The city had ongoing projects that continually diverted pass through traffic, etc., etc. But it took while for us to let our ‘baby’ go because our other location had done so well.

However, once we did decide to let it go so many other opportunities opened up for us.

By: Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome

Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:57:40 +0000

My inner teenager is always rebellion even against things I WANT to do, but I’ve learned how to keep him quiet by focusing on choosing to do things rather than obligating myself to do them.
Alex Fayle | Someday Syndrome´s last blog ..When Accountability Doesn’t Work

By: Positively Present

Positively Present — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:52:46 +0000

I LOVE this post. I tend to be a bit of a rebel at times and I think that’s actually caused a lot of problems for me regarding my personal happiness. I LOVE the suggestions you’ve included here. Awesome!!

By: Lisis | Quest For Balance

Lisis | Quest For Balance — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:58:54 +0000

I’m so confused now! I just got through reading David’s post, at Raptitude, and was determined to go against the grain. Then I read this one and decided to go with the flow. Now I’m not really sure WHICH direction I’m heading, or whether I’m with or against the current!

But you bring up a very important point: rebelling just for the sake of being contrarian, is ridiculous (sometimes dumb, or even dangerous). I’m a big fan of doing things your own way, but only when you find the established way to be lacking. I guess it’s the old, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” thing.
Lisis | Quest For Balance´s last blog ..My Favorite Things: An Antidote to Sadness

By: Nelia

Nelia — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:50:20 +0000

“Some ideas are good, even if they aren’t your own.”

Really?

Seriously, #3 is a zinger for me. It’s not so much that I don’t recognize the value that others provide. But that if I accept said value, I’ve thereby reduced my own value. I’ve proven my own value is insufficient, hence the requirement to leverage others.

As you might imagine, this thought process often gets me into trouble. I’m (rightly) perceived as stubborn, inflexible and egotistical.

Your #3 reminds me that rebelling in this instance is actually the safe choice. I’m limited by the offerings of my own paradigm. Willingness to leverage my paradigm as well as others provides unlimited opportunities.

Great post. Thanks!
Nelia´s last blog ..Teacher’s Pet : The Hank and Nelia Love Story, Part II

By: Jay Schryer

Jay Schryer — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:22:08 +0000

Well said, Sherri! So many people go out of their way to be “independent” or “in charge” that they often shoot themselves in the foot.

I should know, I’ve been guilty of doing this a time or two myself. Of course I can’t speak for everyone, but in myself, I see it as a sign of immaturity. When I catch myself thinking “You can’t tell me what to do” or something similar, I stop and think about it for a second. I ask myself if I’m just being childish, or if I have a legitimate reason for responding that way. More often than not, I can see where it’s just my inner child trying to have his say, and I can proceed accordingly. The trick, of course, is recognizing it when it happens…
Jay Schryer´s last blog ..Lazy Summer Days