@ Alex – Excellent point! I found the same thing with some of the people we met overseas. They were extremely direct and to the point very unlike almost all Canadians I know. Initially I found this to be very off putting but in the end came to really appreciate it.

Two years of living in Spain and I still cringe sometimes when people say things to me. Fortunately I’ve learned to be more direct and my bf has learned to speak a little less forcefully.

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I’ve obviously taught my kids well. They now point out when I snap or raise my voice by saying “Mum you don’t normally speak like that, is something wrong?”

Here’s hoping I have three caring and thoughtful new age sensitive men when they grow up.

Peace, love and chocolate

Carole

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@ Sunny Jamiel – Thanks! I’m glad you like it and welcome to our site. Thanks for the Stumble and the RT !

@ Nadia – Precisely we’re not mind readers, contrary to what a lot of people think Being clear and direct in our message is key.

@ Roger – Good point! Waiting for the right moment is very important. If you know someone has just stepped out of a meeting where it’s all gone horribly wrong, probably best to just let them be for a while and not dump more bad news or criticism on them. I agree.

@ RYM – Thanks for your comment. Listening is a vital part of effective communication thank you for bringing that up! Once you feel the other person has gotten their point across you can interject with advice or support but it’s knowing when to do it, and that’s kind of an art

@ William – Welcome and thanks for your comment. Open and honest communication is very important. Also not being shy to ask for clarification if you don’t understand something fully or feel that you may have incorrectly interpreted what was said. It’s not always safe to just assume.

It’s definitely a life long process, but it is vital to success in almost any endeavor!

Thanks for to great article.

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Couldn’t agree with you more. Sometimes my wife just wants me to listen and not say anything. Saying at the right time is almost as important as chosing the right tone.

Great advice! I think another useful point is to think about WHEN you say something. When I want to say something that is sensitive, I try to wait for the right moment.

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In my day job, ninety percent of the cases we have all boils down to how someone said something or did something. I think most people assume that the other person knows what they are thinking but they don’t. So delivery is so important and is so underestimated by society. Good for you for bringing this subject to the attention of others!

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