10 Ways You Can Add A Spark to Your Relationship Today

You’re in love. It will never last…unless you give it your all.

A relationship, like anything else you want to last, requires attention, work and regular maintenance. Imagine buying a car, driving it off the lot and never checking or changing the oil, filling it up with gas, or getting regular tune ups. You’re not going to get too far and it’s certainly not going to last you as long as it could.

Relationships really are no different. They need a daily effort if you want to be in it for the long haul and it’s the little things that make huge impacts. With Valentine’s Day only 12 days away (yes, you’re welcome for the reminder!) here are 10 ideas you can do to add a little spark to your relationship today and everyday.

 

1. First date. Re-create your first date. Think back to where you went, what movie you saw, what meal you ate. Then re-create it. It’s fun to take a trip down memory lane and have all the excitement and feelings coming flooding back.
2. Flowers. Think of her favorite flower from time to time and give it to her “just because”.
3. Date Night. Pick a night this week to go out on date. Whether it’s dinner and a movie or just a couple of drinks after work followed by a walk in the park, the point is to have time alone together to reconnect. Take turns planning a special evening each week, make it a competition.
4. Plan a picnic. Plan a picnic in the park, on the beach or by a river. Make a selection of his favorite foods and a nice red wine is a great touch.
5. Communicate. Personally, I think this one is the key to any relationship. Just talk and listen to each other. Discuss your dreams and hopes for the future, your fears and what you most look forward to. Try creating a list of all the reasons why you love him/her and read it out to them. Making sure you are both on the same page puts you well on the path to a happy life together.
6. Do something nice. Like I said before, it’s the little things that make huge impacts. Wake him up before the alarm with a steaming cup of coffee. Start the car on a cold day to let it warm up. Pack a lunch so she can take it to work BONUS: include a love note!
7. Massage. Book a couples massage at a local day spa. This can be especially invigorating after a long stressful week and set the tone for a relaxing weekend.
8. Show affection. Hold hands, hug, kiss or just put your arm around him. There is a lot to be said for the healing power of touch. Try a back rub, footsie under the table whatever you like just make a point of having physical contact each and everyday.
9. Stay in bed all weekend. My husband and I did this once (before we had kids of course), it was AWESOME!  Granted it was for a weekend TV marathon of Eco-Challenge but it was great to just lay there with each other and reconnect without all the common distractions.
10. Show appreciation. Say thank-you for all the things he does to show that they are not going unnoticed. Don’t just say “Thanks for everything”, give it some thought and list out the things that you are truly thankful for.

Taking time each day to work on your relationship, even in the smallest way, will make for a happy and joyful one. What things do you do to make each day special?

 

Photo courtesy of Hamed Masoumi